Two in the afternoon yesterday, bringing together leading experts in education, Sun Yunxiao insist years network chat with young people and parents the essence of the "Sun Yunxiao with you face to face" series, held in the China Youth Research Center Book Launch. Professor of Psychology, Beijing Normal University MOTHER Hao Xianghong, Secretary General of the China Youth Network and other experts to the scene to speak.
Since June 2000 more than 10 years since the well-known education experts and the monthly Sun Yunxiao adhere to the parents and teachers, young people and their online chat, breaking a variety of educational problems, promoting a large number of young people's healthy development. Sun Yunxiao site chat room known as "the best quality of family education online platform."
"Sun Yunxiao with you face to face" series consists of 4 books, namely "love education education is to love", "love child to dare to say no," "good habits decide Beautiful Life", "every child can succeed." Sun Yunxiao of these titles are long-term exchanges with friends to form the core of progressive views on education. People's Network public opinion monitoring room Zhuhua new Secretary-General commented: "With profound cultural heritage, Sun Yunxiao to be an online educational topics most inspiring 'opinion leaders'."
Survey showed that 63% of the students believe that good parents the most important is to respect children's privacy standards. However, there are 69% of the mothers had read their child's diary, 20% of the mother would listen in the child's phone, 22% of the parents would turn their children's school bag. In light of this, Professor Sun Yunxiao emphasize a point - "to love education education is love." Love to love education has two meanings: First, parents love their children understand and respect, followed by fostering children's love and sense of responsibility.
Parents to give them respect, understanding at the same time, Sun Yunxiao also believes that education is the stress measured, appropriate better, or less than the desired results can not be achieved. Criticism and praise relative, relative to the punishment and reward, for everyone, especially growing children, has special significance. Kids to grow up in a praise was rightly ringing, of course, growth is good for confidence, but only praise not criticism, not only to educate their children would not achieve results, but will make the child can not withstand setbacks, not the courage to take responsibility. Can not withstand the criticism of children are fragile, so be sure to say no when necessary for the child, and stick in the end.
In the "good habits decide Beautiful Life," a book, Sun Yunxiao habits clearly put forward five steps: the first step to raise awareness and guide the children have a habit interest. A clear code of conduct for the second step, so that children develop a clear and specific standards for good habits. The third step is persistent behavior training, so that children from passive to active and then automatically, to develop a good habit. Step timely assessment and reward and punishment, let the children experience in successfully develop good habits, the fifth step to form a good environment or atmosphere for family life and school environment until the child develop good social atmosphere to become accustomed to the support force.
Growing hopeful for the current situation, Professor Sun Yunxiao in his latest book, "Every child can succeed," a book, put forward the "every child can succeed," the point of view, the success of the children re-defined, raised "Success is to develop", "success is to choose", "success is harmony" of the modern success of the concept.
Sun Yunxiao proposed first to correct errors in the definition of success and understanding. At present, many parents think their children improve academic performance, and can be admitted to a good university is a success. The standard of success as a child to make the school their child every competitive exam to become a stage, each report card have become the benchmark to measure the success of their children. This attitude of parents directly affects the child's mind, according to the survey, 20% of the child is learning the most trouble, and another 20% of the child to worry about for the exam, 15% of the child worried about their academic performance. Learning is not good because the parents are likely to be criticized. This kind of academic standards as a measure of the success of their children, not only likely to cause the child's "childhood fears", but also directly affects the parent-child relationship between parents and children, directly affects the effect of family education.
Vice President of the China Youth Research Professor Lu Shizhen that "Throughout the book are addressed, we can clearly see, the core of the concept of children's rights thing, that is true of children as a dynamic, people people with development potential and unique person. This is for children to respect children's understanding of the nature of the foundation of all education of children with behavior of the modern sense, the basis on which children and elders to avoid inter-generational conflict between the key. " The senior education expert laments that, "For us such a history of civilization for thousands of years, drastic changes are in the country, education, and the cry of this reflection is not too much, but too little. from In this sense, as exhibited by the new Sun Yunxiao the future and certain in advance, it is time, society calls for and demands on education, educational development in contemporary China must be. "
Deputy Director, Institute for Educational Researcher Tian Huisheng, said: "For a long time, we are always accustomed to adult values, codes of conduct to the requirements of our children to the adult world recognized the value of the standard evaluation of all children. Thus, education greatly reduced the role of parents and children, between teachers and students will become alienated and even opposing the inevitable. In this regard, "Sun Yunxiao with you face to face" Books give us the biggest revelation is to learn to use children view of children. On some issues, to give up standard or authoritative adult, forced to give up, change my position, thinking the change to the perspective of the child's position stands practically go watch them, respect them and understand them, and lie in two that block inter-generational invisible 'wall' will be gradually digestion, understanding will be quietly at my open window. "
Capital Normal University, chief specialist of education discipline, education, policy and law professor, dean of the sound Laokai comments that "the content of the series in 10 years Sun Yunxiao online discussion with young people, a microcosm of communication, involving The problem is not a general sense of preaching. because in the real world does not exist on the Internet in a variety of authoritative discourse everywhere, all the ideas and views and values must be placed to re-examine the new scales, so this form can be said more challenging. the author did not play the traditional roles of teacher, but as a great friend to discuss with young people, not only touched the child, but also touched their parents and teachers. I wonder if the Chinese parents and teachers are like that to a red-hot Sun Yunxiao heart to face their children and students, education issues may be much less. "
Many years been accepted on behalf of Sun Yunxiao users ideas of education, have arrived at the scene expressed their gratitude to the Sun Yunxiao. Beijing University of Foreign Studies University Information Technology student Zhang Kai, 08, said: "Today's achievement is inseparable from a talk about the past. Since 2000, when I started the Internet, Sun Yunxiao teacher per month go to China Youth Net chat room and talk to us on We were young in order to encourage, teach us the right to face the phenomena of puberty and setbacks. This is undoubtedly the development of our adolescence, and later in life have played a positive role. "
It is reported that of the young Sun Yunxiao has been engaged in education and research for 38 years, is now a researcher at the China Youth Research Center and Deputy Director, the blog traffic up to 650 million, exceeded 55 million micro-Bo fan. His exchanges with the depth of a soft spot for the majority of users, it is because he insisted that their online communications to the times. He said. No time like this parents need to grow with the children, parents only learn, the child will every day.
