With a lot of adult, children also often like to listen to praise and feel disgusted criticism. Gao Du teachs French psychologist to consider to confirm through a special subject, after those children that accept criticism hard are grown, also can hold to criticism mostly " avoid and far " or flat " close the door on " manner. By this token, let the child learn to no matter,accept criticism in child age of whole to a person character model, right still facilitate the success of its career, have quite active sense. So, how should young father mother let the child learn to accept criticism? A few children of France teach an expert to offer the following proposal for this: 1, educational child need not make a fuss of to the criticism of other teachs the child, should insist to praise of course give priority to, but might as well learn to speak in the child or when toddle, let the child hear openly affirmation already conciously, also hear the criticism of the opposite. Right now, the criticism that must note pair of cheeper must tone is moderate, the analysis is critical, and it is premise with more praising, be like: Darling doctrine " drink water " very clear, but doctrine " have a meal " when still not be clear about, mom can say: "The word that you say is not quite clear, say again, ? " or " darling learned to not was afraid of on foot yesterday tired, how be afraid of today tired? " conciously early " introduce " criticism can help him subliminal experience arrives: Criticize and praise likewise common! In fact, in cheeper period can get used to critical child, the society also often can suit relatively after be brought up, also include to have among them what treat the criticism that comes from other and even censure correctly is gentle state of mind, and stronger bear setback ability. 2, let the child learn to listen attentively to to be criticized no matter seriously much acuteness, much bos listens, you should ask the child is listened attentively to seriously. Because be listened attentively to seriously only, just can discover among them perhaps really part truth, final ability is modest give accept. Make the child gradually clear thereby: Listen attentively to seriously to the criticism of other, it is a kind of civilized expression not only, and the necessary method that also is perfect ego. 3, cold treatment but do not want silent not to make a sound to is handled calmly and be not meant speechless to criticism. Parents should teach the child modest to reasonable composition of criticism accept, listed even improvement way or measure. Of course, right the acknowledgment of the person that criticize can reflect a good faith that accepts criticism more. Requirement child masters " cold treatment " skill includes: The person that do not want pair of criticism recriminate, not " self-defensive backstroke " , do not want hyperbole to wait a moment, contrary, the calmly analysis on the foundation that should listening attentively to seriously goes out as far as possible much reasonable composition. 4, allow to make explanatory do not accord with a fact when criticism, also should allow the child to make an explanation, because let child theory express falsely to accept criticism, but big move is subdued in the heart actually not only at job of no help, cause a variety of abuse possibly still. Also want to make the child clear meanwhile: Explanatory purpose is not the responsibility that shirk should bear originally, still should ask the child maintains the attitude of calm, be practical and realistic when the explanation. 5, right many children of of of treat equally without discrimination can accomplish the person that criticize to be listened attentively to seriously and modest accept the criticism that comes from teacher or parents, but be the same as the criticism of age person to coming from however close the door on. Should teach the child at this moment: Should criticize only reasonable, this criticism comes from even if young associate, also answer modest accept. Actually, wanted the child to learn only " be kind to " criticism, so criticism is completely OK as praising same, become the spring breeze that encourages child advancement, and still rising to praise the caution effect that has hard. <
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